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Uncovering Your True Purpose: A Journey to Authentic Living (w/ Yvonne Trost)

• Martin Perdomo "The Elite Strategist" • Season 3 • Episode 504

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Uncover your true purpose with the inspiring Yvonne Trost, a seasoned hypnotherapist and yoga instructor who shares her remarkable journey from corporate executive to a guide for authentic living. Yvonne reveals how our conditioning often dictates our perception of success and wealth, urging us to redefine these concepts to align with our authentic selves. Through her company, Limitless You, she empowers people to dismantle limiting beliefs and live fulfilling lives. Dive into the profound insights Yvonne offers on connecting with your subconscious mind to discover and embrace your true purpose, transforming societal expectations into personal empowerment.

Ever experienced a moment so profound it shifted the course of your life? Yvonne and I discuss these pivotal awakenings, often sparked by a subtle inner whisper or divine nudge, that lead to significant life shifts. By approaching life with compassion and curiosity, we can transform obstacles into gateways for personal growth. Listen as we share practical strategies to overcome the fear of the unknown, like paying attention to bodily cues and emotions, which can guide you toward your true calling. Find out how self-reflection and curiosity help unveil our deepest motivations, and explore resources to support this transformative journey.

In a world filled with challenges, the power of perception and choice becomes a vital tool for navigating tough times. Together, Yvonne and I explore how the meanings we attach to our experiences shape our emotional responses and professional outcomes. From navigating a tense real estate deal to recognizing the impact of media on mental health, we discuss the importance of maintaining emotional control and fostering supportive environments. This episode is a testament to the strength found in self-awareness, authenticity, and connection, offering insights into thriving amid life’s uncertainties and the profound growth that comes from embracing life's lessons.

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Speaker 1:

Building wealth isn't just about personal gain. It's about empowering yourself and your community. This is Wealthy AF, your ultimate guide to understand what it truly means to be Wealthy AF. And today's guest is Yvonne Trost, and she is someone you need to hear. Imagine having over 25 years of global experience under your belt and understanding the professional journey from entry level to C-suite. Yvonne Trost has done just that. She's been through it all and she's here to help you break free from the barriers holding you back. Yvonne, welcome to the podcast.

Speaker 2:

My dear Thank you, martin, I'm so happy to be here.

Speaker 1:

I'm so happy to have you here Today. We're going to talk about. We're going to see where the conversation goes. We're going to tentatively say we're going to talk about. We're going to see where the conversation goes. We're going to tentatively say we're going to talk about overcoming limiting beliefs and personal growth. I'm just a conversationalist and I like to have good conversations with smart people, and you were telling me a little bit off air, a little bit about your purpose and things. Just tell us a little bit about your story, who you are, and when you told me you're a hypnotherapist, yoga instructor, you have a lot of really cool things under your tool belt there, yeah, so tell us a little bit about you, yvonne.

Speaker 2:

I guess what I would first start talking about is when understanding who I am, as me, really helping you understand who you're going to become or who you really are inside. We talk about wealth, we talk about success and I always if you're not watching I put air quotes, because quite often our success and our wealth is defined by conditioning right conditioning when we were growing up that we may be aware of or unaware of conditioning all around you. So to tell you about me is to tell a story of how I let go of my conditioning. First, I discovered it. I didn't know I had it Right.

Speaker 2:

That 25-year career was amazing and I learned so much, but it wasn't aligned to my true purpose. I was helping corporations and federal agencies with their bottom lines and making them look better and better, but my true purpose is helping human beings become more of who they authentically are, so that they're successful both inside and out. So that's what my journey has been about learning how to do that for myself. And now I've left corporate America so that I can work more directly with people right on that purpose, one-on-one, and I launched a company with my partner. It's called Limitless you, because I believe everybody is limitless, and our website is Unlock Limitless you, and that's what I'm about is helping people unlock themselves from the emotional prison they don't even know they put themselves in.

Speaker 1:

So you mentioned purpose. Let's start there what is purpose and what is your purpose?

Speaker 2:

That is such a good question. There's so many words that are overused now Purpose, authenticity, self-love so much that they're kind of almost watered down right and like you don't know if people know what they're talking about or not. So purpose is something that is unique to you. I can't tell you your purpose. Most people don't even know how to discover their own purpose because they're not connected to their authentic self. So to find your purpose you have to know like who you are naturally not conditioned, and to do that you have to connect to your subconscious mind. So for me, purpose is finding something where you feel like you're naturally flowing through life, giving and receiving without effort, like almost like a river just flows naturally right, and you're having an impact that's meaningful to you intrinsically not meaningful because somebody else gives it meaning, but meaningful to you.

Speaker 1:

What is your purpose?

Speaker 2:

My purpose is just helping people do just that right. I didn't know better. I had a lovely childhood. I didn't know I wasn't living my purpose I had to find out the hard way through many years of just kind of running on that hamster wheel trying to achieve a certain title or a certain financial status or a certain Facebook profile, family profile. And so I believe my purpose is what I'm doing now. It feels so natural. And so I believe my purpose is what I'm doing now. It feels so natural and so right, and that is to connect with human beings. That's what union, that's what yoga means. Is union right? So to me, I feel like we are all connected and my purpose is to connect with the authentic core of somebody, help them connect to it themselves so that they can free themselves and live their happiest life.

Speaker 1:

That's my purpose. That is beautiful. How does someone get to uncover their purpose? So if I'm a listener and I'm like, hey, you know, we all have it, we all have it inside us. I believe, experiencing the human experience, one fellow human being to another, that we all have this, this desire inside. I'll share the story with you One day.

Speaker 1:

I'm driving home this must've been 15 years ago. I'm driving home, I'm on I-80, coming from New York City. I think I was coming from New York when I was working in New York, living in Pennsylvania, and I'm coming off of 80. It's more than 15 years, it's got to be like 18 years. I'm coming off I-80, getting off on my exit, and I got this feeling and I say, like I call it, it was a God like God just speaking through me, right, it was a God like God just speaking through me, right, and like I just felt like I wasn't born to do what I was doing and I felt that I was born to do something greater. And I think, if we all are honest with ourself, we've all experienced this at some point and I was like this is not right, like I, this, this doesn't feel right. I'm doing well, I'm making money, but it doesn't feel right, like God, what is it that I'm supposed to be doing? And I was with that question like God. I like I felt that I needed to be serving and I needed to be doing more for others. And it wasn't freaking, selling insurance and I was doing well, right, it's making multiple six figures at the time, doing very well, and it's like it's not this. I just know it's not this and um, yeah, so.

Speaker 1:

So shortly after that, I'm gonna say maybe a year or two later, an opportunity showed up for me to um. I was approached to run for state representative in my, in my community. I decided not to take it. I didn't feel I was ready at the time, but I just feel that that was God's kind of movement moving me towards the direction of having a larger impact in the way that I, that I was, that I'm called to do. I just know I'm called to have impact in a positive way. How do you, how do you? Have you experienced that? By the way? First of all, have you ever had that moment, that defined moment, where you know, like you had that feeling like man? This just doesn't feel right and I feel stuck and I'm like I know I'm meant to do greater things. What was that for you?

Speaker 2:

Absolutely. I think mine perhaps was more gradual because I wasn't listening to my creator. They had to keep meeting me over there. So once you, I call it wake up. Sometimes it takes a little bit more than a single moment, but I love the saying you know so many people have said it, but now actually understand it.

Speaker 2:

you know that things happen for you, not to you yes so if you are listening and you're like this doesn't feel right or I just keep hitting this obstacle, or you know, it just seems unattainable, like there's a reason that's happening. So so get curious. First number one I always say equals MC squared. The energy you want in your life is mindful thinking, raised to the power of compassion and curiosity. So compassion for yourself, because you're just doing the best you can and whoever brought you up just did the best they can. We don't need to put any judgment or blame, that's right.

Speaker 2:

So first hold yourself with compassion Because, martin, you know you're trained right, your subconscious mind is the age of a little child anyway. So that's my life hack if somebody's making me mad or something's making me mad, I just like everybody's just a little kid in there. So have compassion and then get curious. So for me, like, I just kept getting like kind of first it was at work, right, like I wanted to do these things, but it felt like so much effort, like how to convince people. And then people were like, well, no, that doesn't, that's not what we do. And then the divorce came right. And then like, just over and over and over again, right. So for me things were happening. For me it wasn't like that single moment. It was blockers kept getting put up. But what now? I know, instead of calling them blockers, I call them opportunities, right? My creator was trying to tell me like this is not the path, right, you need to learn something. Come over that obstacle, think about what you learn and then grow.

Speaker 2:

So for me, my divorce was the big wake up. But then I still had a lot of the fear of the unknown. A lot of people don't live their purpose because they're afraid. They're afraid of, like trying something new. So Virginia Satir says something like people prefer the misery of certainty over the misery of uncertainty. So if you're listening, just stop and catch yourself like, does that apply to you? You prefer the misery or suffering that you're in because at least you know what you got.

Speaker 2:

That's where I was. I knew what I had in the marriage I was in. I knew what I had in the job that I had. I thought it was stable, I thought it was secure, but it was like draining me. So when people started telling me you come alive, you glow when you do X, y or Z, I started leaning into that.

Speaker 2:

I started, instead of for people if they're listening and like, how do you find your purpose? Number one, start listening to your body. Martin, how many people? I don't know about you, but before I kind of started waking up, I felt something I didn't want to feel. I'd have a glass of wine, I'd go binge, watch Netflix, maybe I would work, throw myself into work. Right, we do all these distractions right, because we think it's happening to us and we don't want to feel it. So the first thing you need to do is pay attention and when there's something that doesn't feel good, pull it in closer, get curious, sit with it why doesn't it feel good? And they can learn some things right On our website unlocklimitlessucom.

Speaker 2:

Forward slash resources. There's this really cool thing. It's called getting to the root of it, discovering your why, and it's very simple, like, if a lot of your listeners are into real estate. Dean Graziosi made it popular with the seven levels deep. So why do you do what you do, like? Why do you want to make money? Why do you need to be successful? Like, start with that big question.

Speaker 1:

Why.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and then you ask yourself well, why is that important?

Speaker 1:

That's a great exercise. That's a great exercise.

Speaker 2:

Seven levels deep is so good. And then you ask it again, and that's how you're going to get closer to your purpose, cause when I did mine after, like I said, it kept beating me over the head over and, over and over again. It's all about connection.

Speaker 1:

Right, it always winds up being about connection.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and then when you so, we did, I did. A lot of my quantum leap, as I call it, came through hypnotherapy and it helped me so much that I became a hypnotherapist to help others. Once you understand why you're limiting yourself, like it's just a story and it might have helped you survive as a young kid, but it's not a truth really for you anymore and once you can unlock yourself from that, that's when you start to flow in your purpose.

Speaker 1:

You blend ancient wisdom with modern science, like quantum physics and neuroscience. How do these disciplines work together to create transformation?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that's such a great question. So I have so many different types of people in my life. I have those that think if you say manifesting or quantum physics, they say that's woo-woo, like you're a little wackadoodle, I don't know who you are. Hypnosis forget that. That's scary. I'm like you're already in a social trance, like you're in a deeper trance than I can probably ever put you in. All right, so what?

Speaker 2:

I think there's golden truths. There's a thread of truth that runs through almost so many facets and aspects and methods. Right, ancient wisdom has known. Right, yogis have known what modern science is proving for thousands of years, without the technology and without the data, for thousands of years, without the technology and without the data. So many people can't access it without the technology and without the data. They want proof, right? I love some of the proof, like Dr Joe Dispenza. I love him, hope to work with him someday. I like bringing them together because what it's all about is belief. The human being, martin, is so powerful. I don't pay attention to a lot of the news, but I don't think we've cloned a human being yet, have we that I'm aware of?

Speaker 1:

I don't think we have. I don't pay attention to a lot of the news either, other than financial news. That's the stuff I watch, or some of my business. But no, I don't pay attention to a lot of the news either, other than financial news. That's the stuff I watch, or some of my business, but no, I don't think we have.

Speaker 2:

Right, have we built a rocket though?

Speaker 1:

Absolutely Plenty.

Speaker 2:

Yes, so which is more complex? The human being and the human mind, body and spirit, or a rocket?

Speaker 1:

Obviously the human being mind, body. It cannot be duplicated.

Speaker 2:

Right. So why I combine those different things is because there's so much to learn. The wisest man or woman knows there's so much that they don't know, and when you can start learning right and believing from all those different facets, you're going to unlock the power within you. Not only are we more complicated, we are more powerful. We haven't even begun to use the power of the human being, and some people can begin to appreciate it through modern science, some people can appreciate it through ancient wisdom, and I think there's a golden truth in both. So why not learn from both?

Speaker 1:

Absolutely, absolutely. How important is effective communication in transforming both personal and professional relationships.

Speaker 2:

Oh my gosh, it's beyond. I don't even know if important is the word. And what I want folks to think about too, is communication's, not just with your words and your mouth.

Speaker 1:

Body language, it's energy.

Speaker 2:

Energy, energy. Your skin is overrated. You think like you're keeping. If you close your mouth and you don't move your arms, like you're not saying anything, people can't feel you. Oh, yes, they can. Yes, they can. We are powerful energetic beings.

Speaker 2:

So not only is communication important, but understanding all the ways in which you can communicate and can influence both your personal life and your business life. It's called the Joy Regenerator, martin, so you can go to unlocklimitlessucom forward, slash joy and it walks you through how to regenerate joy and then how to communicate. I used to live out of fear and I also was quite judgmental, because I now know that was my limiting belief, that I thought it was protecting me, but it was actually harming me and keeping me from the union that I wanted. So if we can get rid of fear and judgment, then we bring heaven here on earth and that communication that you talked about. It's going to be phenomenal. So conflict will begin to bring you closer at home and at work, because you'll be able to communicate in a healthy way. You'll let go of assumptions, you'll stop taking things personally, you'll stop judging others, you'll seek to understand Right. So in that joy regenerator we have like a little script that you can practice with.

Speaker 1:

I tell people print it out and give it to everybody you talk to tell us. Tell us the script. What's the script?

Speaker 2:

just say so I would say um act like you say something mean to me, martin oh, boy you are, I don't know you walk funny so I'd be like Martin it's not your fault the story I started creating in my head when you told me that I walked funny was that I was ugly and I know that wasn't your intention.

Speaker 2:

Can we talk about you? Know what is your intention and what are you trying to communicate, so that we can process it together. And I won't take things personally and we'll figure out how we can better communicate together. Right Cause, think about it this way you could have been like. You could have been like oh my gosh, you might think I was hurt, Right Like, did I? Did I twist my ankle or something? Oh, you're walking funny, right Like. There could have been so much love in that.

Speaker 1:

So it's all about the meanings we give. Right, we're meaning-making machines, right, we're meaning-making machines. So, hey, I could tell you you're walking funny. But what was my intention behind it, right, hey, your shoes off, so your heels off. Right, so, your heels off, you're walking funny. But you gave it a different meaning, right? Maybe I mean it in a good way, right, so?

Speaker 1:

So how do you navigate that when someone is mean to you? I'm going to ask you this question because this is what the listeners are probably thinking you don't know, you don't know someone. So, um, you're in your course of business and you're calling someone and they're just nasty, just flat out, just nasty. You know, and you're just being you and you're like why is this person being nasty to me? Right, what, what, what's the what's?

Speaker 1:

The initial response is to kind of give it back to them. Right, that's kind of the initial, that's my initial response, at least, that's my human initial response. It's like, hey, hey, hey, slow down, there's boundaries here. We're not doing that. Here we're going to teach each other, we're going to treat each other with respect. How do you navigate that? What are you telling someone you can't tell them? Hey, hey, um, yvonne, I don't know you Right and I'm like hey, yvonne, I took that Like there's no time for that. If we're trying to do business or we're we're in a you know, we're in in a transaction or some sort of, where it, you know it's not someone. You know how do you navigate that.

Speaker 2:

Okay, first I want to foot stomp you for something you just said and I want to make sure the listeners heard it.

Speaker 1:

Okay.

Speaker 2:

The situation, the conversation, the experience right can be completely different for two people having the same thing. It's never about conversation, it's never about the experience, it's never about the experience, it's about the meaning you give it. So that person can't make you mad, they can't disrespect you unless you give them that power. So you need to take back your power and you choose. So sometimes, even when I get a little bit, you know I'm like I just say the word choose. So sometimes, even when I get a little bit, you know I'm like I just say the word choose, I choose the meaning.

Speaker 1:

It's a great reframe, great reframe, great reframe. We're just saying choose, choose a meaning, choose a meaning. Really good, really good sound advice, really good sound advice.

Speaker 2:

Because if you don't, you know, your subconscious mind kicks on the automatic programs, it goes into fight or flight and it's going to respond not in the way that's the healthiest for you or your business transaction, right, okay, so we foot stomped that. Everybody's clear on that. If I were in that situation, the first question I would ask is why don't you have time? You said there's no time for that.

Speaker 1:

No, no, no, what I'm, what I'm saying? You don't have time. Let's just say you're, you're in a, I don't know you're, you're, you're in a, you're doing a transaction and you need to get you know, you're, you're, you're just going through it. Right, I'll give you. I'll give an example. We had an example with, with, uh, with a with a company that we just did a deal with. We were so when we we buy and sell real estate so I buy and hold apartment buildings and I buy fixed houses, I sell them and I do a lot of real estate transactions, right, a lot of different.

Speaker 1:

When we sell a property, we don't get to, um, we don't get to pick the title company, we're not paying for the title insurance. So therefore, the buyer is the person that they hire their title company. We have very little say on that. However, we're obviously part of that transaction, right, because we're the sellers. So the deed has to be prepared, there's all these documents that have to be prepared and there's communication, loan payoff letters have to be sent and all this communication. So when my team talked to this particular title agent, she was extremely rude just right off, rip right, just right from, just non-cooperative, just hey, it's my way or the highway. We are not, and it's like whoa, whoa, wait a minute, lady.

Speaker 1:

And I wasn't the first line of defense, it was my team, it was someone on my team and so when I got on the phone with her, it was the same stuff. It was the same stuff and I was like, whoa man, this is going to be a long one, right, getting through this transaction with this title agent, just because she was just extremely nasty. So sometimes we're in the mix, right? So we're in the mix of doing one transaction, two, three, four, whatever.

Speaker 1:

We got a whole bunch of things on our plate and it's like, hey man, do I have the time to get into this with this person right now, or do I just need to keep moving on to the next things? You know, our plate is full and all these other bigger, more important things we have to manage. There's just no time for all of that at this moment. Let's just say here's what we need. Okay, that's how you want to play. Fine, we'll just whatever's needed, let's just. Let's just keep this thing moving Right, keep this thing moving Right, cause we just want to get this thing moving. That's what I mean when we don't have, when you're just in the mix and there's a mountain of things that need to get done for a transaction. That's just one example.

Speaker 2:

Yeah. So that's a really good example, like, and what I would say is we're going to, we're going to play with this here today. What I would also say is there's so many people out there, don't just like take what people say. Don't even take what I say right. Test it, experiment with it right, see if it resonates with you, if it works in your situation, how I would handle that. Because here's sounds like maybe the old yvonne, like it's all about, like get things done and blah, blah, blah.

Speaker 2:

Um, sometimes we think it's almost like the classic tortoise and hare right we think like the fast and the quick and the dirty, and I don't have like it's so funny people use. I remember I had a boss and he's like, just like, stop and treat people like humans. I'm like I don't have time for that. You need to get me to do this and this and this and this and all this stuff. I'm like you want that done. Which do you want? Do you want people happy or do you want it done? I think I'm going to talk to him next week. I can't wait to tell him we talked about this. But this woman's a human. Yeah, it could be as simple as like wow, I'm so glad I get to speak to you.

Speaker 2:

It sounds like you know, are you having a rough day? Not in a condescending way, but it's just like I just say I'm sensing some energy from you that I had the other day when I was super stressed. You know, we want to make this a win-win. I want to make it as easy as possible for you. How can we do that in a way that's going to work right? What I have learned? Wow, this is a hard one. Anytime you have any judgment of self or others, you're going to slow yourself down. You're going to drain your energy Like I used to think I had this big I was right monster on my shoulder, right, and I actually was always right.

Speaker 2:

But we won't, we won't tell anybody, but it didn't get me the outcome I wanted. It didn't matter if I was right. I used to try and, like, make other people see how right I was and all that did was push them further away, push us farther from what I was trying to accomplish. So, with you saying, like, all this stuff, we got to get done. Well, you got to be creative and you got to think, okay, well, who do I need to involve to get this done? They are not robots. How do I get alignment? And it's better to take, you know, five steps forward and it take, you know whatever, a week, then two steps forward and it take three weeks, right. So that's where you got to step back from that energy. You got to realize they're human. In your business and in your personal life, if there's any judgment involved at all, you got to pause and think about where is that judgment coming from?

Speaker 2:

right, usually it has nothing to do with the other person you're judging and everything to do with what's going on inside of you and remember how we said energy doesn't get contained within your skin it does not pushing that out and you're attracting those situations to you so that it can happen for you, so that you can learn how do I control, not control, but how do I set my energy with intention and not let my power be taken away by somebody else having a bad day.

Speaker 1:

Tell us when you say life is happening for you. Give us a definition, share a story. Give us a real life scenario of how life is happening for us, right, give us an example in your life. Share a story with us.

Speaker 2:

I have the biggest one that I'm so thankful for. Right, I was grounded, fighting against straight A's. Right, I was always compared to my friends, so I didn't have big T trauma in my life. So if you're listening and you're like, oh, this subconscious woo-woo stuff, nothing's holding me back, I'm in control, you're fooling yourself. By the time you're 35, 95% of what you say you feel everything is driven by your subconscious and you're unaware of that programming.

Speaker 2:

So, anyway, I went into a profession that was safe to make money, so that I'd be safe, because that's all my parents wanted, because they didn't have a lot of money growing up, right, so they were well-intentioned. So I did that. I was super successful in that. And then it was like, oh, I'm late on getting married, so let me go find somebody. Right, get married, have kids, get a house, all this stuff. I thought I'm checking all the boxes, I'm moving things forward. Right, looks good on the outside, but I didn't feel good on the inside. And the universe this is part of the beating me over the head. Right, I became. I had one child and I thought, oh well, I'll just have another one, it's going to be fine, I'm starting to see these signs that it's perhaps my.

Speaker 1:

my ex spouse wasn't stable, but I can fix them Nah.

Speaker 2:

I can fix it. How did that work out?

Speaker 1:

for you.

Speaker 2:

I was a consultant, so I was in the fixing solution business, right. And so then it kept happening and it kept happening and it was happening for me and it took things getting unsafe for me and my children physically and mentally For me to make a decision that it actually wasn't a good thing to stay in the marriage for the kids. Right, I was. My parents had been married for 61 years. I'm a good, small town, german, hardworking girl. I can make it work, right, so I just keep working it, keep fixing. And then I realized this isn't working. And it took that beating over the head Right In the moment. Did I think it was happening for me? No, hadn't like woken up yet.

Speaker 2:

I was like the closest to falling apart I've ever been. I had to get him out of the house somehow. Right, in Virginia you have to be separated for a year before you can get a divorce. He's on the title. I couldn't change the keys. I had to get a security system, not because I live in a bad neighborhood, I live in a good neighborhood. But I had to get a security system because he'd be like oh, I'm in the basement, I'm hiding, right, yeah, so I had to have an alarm.

Speaker 2:

So I knew, if the door opened, how do you think my sleep was? What do you think my mental state was like? Right, and then that's when my girlfriend said come to yoga with me. Like I hate yoga, there's no endorphins. Like I was a spinner, a runner, you know adrenaline junkie.

Speaker 2:

It changed my life and through yoga came meditation, came manifesting, came understanding who I was and this whole thing about self-love. It actually isn't overrated if you actually know what you're talking about and you're true to it. I learned to accept myself in a way that I never thought I was good enough before. That Martin happened for me. Otherwise I would still be in an unhappy marriage, I would still be climbing the corporate ladder, I would probably be way out of shape, unhealthy, right. So some of the toughest things in your life, guys, they're happening for you. There is a lesson. It might not feel very good, but get curious, and then you're going to be thankful for it. So when people tell me now, oh, I'm so sorry to hear about that, I'm like no, no, no, it's a congratulations.

Speaker 1:

So tell us how that happened for you, right, because I know there's a lot of lessons for you, but I want you to share with the listeners what those lessons were. How did you become better because of it? Right? So how did that whole experience make you better? Now, obviously, you discovered yoga. You discovered meditation, which are amazing things. You became a hypnotherapist all really good things. You discovered yoga. You discovered meditation, which are amazing things. You became a hypnotherapist all really good things you discovered yourself.

Speaker 1:

But how did that experience, in and of itself, as you reflect backwards? Right, because you and I have the gift of age and time. So this is what I tell young people like hey, I have the advantage, you and I have the advantage of time advantage, you and I have the advantage of time. So, when we look back in time, our advantage is that we have multiple reference points to look at how life, what we deemed to be negative at the time and painful, actually became a blessing to us. Right?

Speaker 1:

Young people don't have those reference points, which is why a lot of young people, as you and I did when we were younger, right, did dumb mistakes, right, stupid moves. Right, because you don't have reference points, you don't have experience? You don't have, but we realize as we get older that, hey, while even these things, these things may seem hard for us, at the end there's always a good, strong, valuable lesson If you look for it. If not, you're going to keep repeating them. That's what I found. You keep repeating them, right, if you look for them, what was yours there, what was your big breakthrough? Aha, life happened for me, this was it for me.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I would have never made this. I would have never made a change. I would have continued living for somebody else out of fear. So I let go of the fear of the unknown and I stepped into my purpose and from that I've gotten deeper connection to myself. I've attracted better people into my life. I have deeper connections with them. I have deeper connections with them. I am teaching my children something that I never even knew was possible that you can actually have a dream, have a purpose and live it. You don't have to just make money and try and survive. You actually get to thrive. Dreaming is not for children.

Speaker 1:

If you choose to, that's a decision we make. Choose, that is a decision we make that word keeps to.

Speaker 2:

that's a decision Choose.

Speaker 1:

That is a decision we make. That word keeps coming up. Look at that. My unconscious mind just gave it right back to you Choose.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, choose. So that's another thing that happened for me. I realized I do have the power to choose, whereas before I thought you know, like, oh, I have to go through this path this way, follow the masses, follow everybody in the social trance, live out of the fear of the unknown, stay where it's safe. So what happened for me? It got me out of the stale pond of fear and I launched into the ocean of possibility. The unknown is exciting. That's what happened for me. Now I'm excited about the unknown versus scared about it now, I feel like I don't have to be a victim.

Speaker 2:

I don't have to be woe is me. So like I don't watch the news for many reasons, but like you can get just sucked into the negative energy and it's almost like a competition for who has the biggest sob story let me tell you, I was, um, you know I, we were talking off of air.

Speaker 1:

I stopped watching news in 2007, 8, in the last great recession and the great recession of 2009,. I was in the mortgage industry Yikes, and I literally I went from one year making a million dollars gross revenue for my company to the very next year, 2008,. Putting my mortgage broker's license in the garbage in my garage. Oh my gosh, it was right. You remember those times. Those were difficult times, especially in my business, in my garage. Oh my gosh, it was right. You remember those times. Those were difficult times, especially in my business, in that business, and at that time I was watching news. I was consuming news because I was in that business and it was all about like, hey, what's going to happen next, is the government going to bail us out, and all of that. And I realized something.

Speaker 1:

I was in my late 20s, I think back then. I'm 46, so, whatever, that was my late 20s back then, and I was like I started feeling this feeling of anxiety, right, this anxiety feeling, and I was like that's it when I noticed that I stopped watching news. So I stopped watching news now since then. So, as you and I were talking earlier. As you know, I'm in Florida and I'm in Tampa. We just had this hurricane here this week. As I record this, we had this huge, record-breaking hurricane here in Florida, in Tampa Hurricane Milton, and of course I had to watch the news right Because I needed to know how to navigate. What am I going to do? What decisions am I going to make? Am I going to keep my family here? Am I going to leave? I needed to know and, oh my goodness, I got to tell you those feelings came right back.

Speaker 2:

Wow.

Speaker 1:

I was like holy shit, like whoa, whoa, like that's it Like, and then it was just like those feelings came right back. I was like I got to take a diet with this news. And then it was worse, because then everyone is calling you right. So everyone is calling you leave, and everyone wants to give you their two cents and leave and it's not safe and it was scary. So they're projecting their fears and I'm the one, the other one, living it Right. So it's that just bought me right back and I was like, well, like the, to the point, yvonne, where I had to like turn the phone off. I was like I'm not taking phone calls, my decision is made, we're staying. I did like I'm not taking phone calls, my decision is made, we're staying.

Speaker 1:

I did what I had to do and it just says it's God's grace at this point, this is my decision, this is a decision I made for my household and it's what it is. And I had to turn the TV off and I had to turn my phone off and I wasn't accepting any phone calls because I saw what it was doing to me. It brought those feelings back to me people projecting all the negativity, all the negativity that was being projected everywhere. Right, you're in, you're in VA, in Virginia, and you knew about all you know, the whole world knew about what was I was getting people overseas texting me like what is happening here? Right, oh, are you okay, is your family okay? And I'm like dude, like just I. This is stressful enough, as it is right, like, and everyone is just you know, and then just just the negative information just coming left, right, left, feet, everywhere, and I realized what it was doing to my body, where I had to just like turn it off oh my gosh, like guys listen to him.

Speaker 2:

it doesn't take a hurricane for people to feel that way. You know how many people have anxiety and it's over things that aren't even true. They're just in their head, right? So you are so wise, number one, to listen to your body and have that awareness. Like I said, most people try and like push it out, distract themselves from it, and then to have the awareness of where it's coming from and to understand that it's energy, like you and I doing like talk about the wisdom of years. I don't know this stuff. If you're listening, the heck, are they talking about this energy business? Just start reading a little bit about neuroscience and how you bring words. Like I was saying earlier, the human being is more complicated than the rocket, but I didn't have human being 101 in school. My parents didn't give me human being 101 or 201. Did you get it?

Speaker 1:

Not at all. I wish Not at all.

Speaker 2:

So nobody does that. So don't beat yourself up that you don't know, but you are the most complicated, most advanced thing on the planet. Learn about how you work, whether it's from me or from Martin or from Joe Dispenza. Learn about how your mind, body, spirit works and you're going to be like, oh wow, this isn't actually woo, woo. This energy thing is real. And, guys, this isn't an option if you want a longer life, if you want abundance and a longer life. So what happens? When you get all worried and you're listening to this stuff, you go into fight or flight and there's like convergent thinking. So your brain gets laser focused on whatever it is, because it thinks, oh my God, I got to keep this person alive and you can't see anything outside of that, right? So if you're in business, I talk to people all the time these entrepreneurs I'm a new entrepreneur, I come from corporate America Like, oh, like, oh, my racing mind's my edge. I'm like, well, yeah, but it's also going to be your early grave.

Speaker 1:

It's not. That is not something to be proud about. That is not my edge.

Speaker 2:

A lot of people don't know that yet. Not my edge, and I don't want A calm mind is my edge. There you go, you and I both.

Speaker 1:

Calm mind.

Speaker 2:

I didn't know that. And if you're talking about the wisdom we're sharing with anybody that's listening, we're not judging you. We're just trying to save you from what we had to learn the hard way and extend your life. So when you have a racing minor, when you're in stress, you are in a constant state of fight or flight. Your autonomic nervous system is in fight or flight. There's low-grade inflammation in your body which causes dis-ease, which causes disease, which causes cancer, which shortens your life. So not only are you not happy while you're doing what you're doing not aligned to your purpose, right, it's shortening your life. And if you have children, they're watching. They are watching.

Speaker 2:

So I get on my soapbox because it's so important. This, if anything you take away from our conversation today right, there's anything like find ways that work for you. I'm not saying there's one way or that's only the right way. Hypnosis, meditation, like meditation, can be walking. Right, it doesn't have to look a certain way. Just still your mind and listen to martin and realize your superpower is coming from a calm, creative place, not from a stressful, on my edge place, and that's going to help with everything at home, at work, lengthening your life, making it more enjoyable while you do it.

Speaker 2:

Ton of free resources, If you're like I don't know if this applies to me. We have two things I tell people about. It's a three minute, five minute, most 12 question quiz at unlocklimitlessucom forward slash quiz. Just take it. It helps gain insights. You'll get some results on like your way of being. Things that we think are normal, right aren't necessarily healthy. There's a lot of normal in the world that's not healthy. That doesn't mean you should try and be normal. My kids are like you're kind of weird, mom. I'm like I'd rather be weird than normal.

Speaker 1:

That's right, that's right. You mentioned the word woo-woo and I tell my kids, I'm what? Because they said the same thing about me and I'm like, hey, what I am is a practical woo-wooist. If it works, then I take it. If it works for me, I take it and I use it. Yeah, I do. If it doesn't, then I scratch. It doesn't deny scratches. So if something resonates with you here and it works for you, take it and run with it. If it doesn't, that's fine, try something else.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and if you want more ideas, so we have a podcast, martin, I'd love to have you on it too. It's called how to Be Happier for Entrepreneurs. So my partner and I meet with people like you, like me, other healers, people that have gone through life transformation, and they want to share that wisdom, just like you're talking about. So get more knowledge. Take human being 101, 201, 301. Like listen to others that have perhaps ideas you haven't thought of yet. Like open your mind, divergent thinking, and then you can come back and converge on what works with you. See if it works, if it doesn't go back out, go back, come back in.

Speaker 1:

That's right. Thank you so much, Yvonne. Thank you so so much. This was such an enlightened conversation. Thank you for coming on and sharing your wisdom and all of your insights. Folks wanted to connect with you. How do they connect with you? Where do they find you on social? I know you've mentioned your website, but you can go ahead and mention it again here now. Where can they find you? How do they connect with you? If someone's like, hey, I really resonate with her and I really like to learn from her, get her as a mentor or just work with her, how do they do that?

Speaker 2:

Absolutely so. Our company name is Limitless you, but what we do is unlock Limitless you, so our website is unlocklimitlessyou.

Speaker 1:

If you go there, all those free resources there's also a button to book a free call Y-O-U or you Y-O-U, unlocklimitlessyoucom forward slash, call right.

Speaker 2:

Or there's a button all over the place that you can click on it and we'll set up some time and we'll talk about it. Take that self-love quiz it's only five minutes and learn a little bit about yourself. And then if you want to talk about those results, right, I'm happy. Like my goal, like I left corporate America not to make millions. It's not there yet. Right, I left because I want to make a difference and I want to make an impact and I want you, if you're listening to like, really love yourself and be happy and thrive at home and at work, because then the world's a better place for everybody. The more connected, the happier we all are, just the better it's going to get for us and our children thank you so much.

Speaker 1:

thank you so much for that. That's really wise, thank you. Thank you, yvonne, so much for that. That's really wise, thank you. Thank you, yvonne, and I said that correctly this time. I hope I did. I did. I didn't screw it up, not even once. I didn't call you Yvonne. That's what I wanted to call you Yvonne. That's a Spanish, this is my Latino accent. Wanting to come out.

Speaker 2:

And then if people, I'm on all the socials Yvonne, marie, trost or Limitless you, if you just search it, you'll find us. But just my last request is don't wait. Don't wait to start learning about the real you and start living as the real you. Take off the mask. You're not fooling anyone anyway.

Speaker 1:

Right. The best education I don't know if it was Zig Ziglar that said this is, or Brian Tracy is self-education. The best education you'll ever get is knowing yourself.

Speaker 2:

I love that the real you.

Speaker 1:

That is the best. No PhD, no, this, no degree, no, none of that stuff matters the most. The most important education is the one that you learn, when you learn about yourself, how you feel, when you're self-aware. Like I told you, I, I felt it in my body just this week whoa, no, like you said right, you said it. You wear your energy and I know you experience this. You go around someone and you're like something's just off about this person. I just, I don't want to be around this, this place or this energy, and I listened to that. I listened to that Like there's just something off here and I just I'm going to remove myself from this environment.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so wise yeah.

Speaker 1:

Listen, listen to yourself, listen to what your body's saying. So, yvonne, thank you so much, my dear, really really appreciate you.

Speaker 2:

I appreciate you and the work that you're doing here. This is great.

Speaker 1:

Thank you, hon Appreciate you.

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